3.07.2014

Distraction is Subjective.

I have a friend who always tells me that everything is subjective. When I complained about one of my many housemates breaking my cup and how the decent thing was for her to pay for it, he said that that was subjective. She never paid for it, I never liked her anyway. And he was right, she didn't have to pay for it, it's just what I would have done because I am that kind of person.

Waiting for a missionary, you hear a lot of people preach to you that you shouldn't distract the missionary. In fact, some people consider a missionary having a girl back home a huge distraction. There are SO many times I have heard people say how the missionaries with girls back home are the laziest missionaries, and every time I hear that it boils my blood because Elder Ireland has a girl waiting for him at home and he is the complete opposite of lazy.

I am a member of a Facebook group filled with girls and boys waiting for missionaries; once in a while a girl likes to preach to everyone how we shouldn't tell our boys we love them or be too lovey because we are distracting them. Or a girl posts something that she was going to send her missionary but someone told her that that would distract him so now she isn't sure if she should send this anymore.

I am here to tell you a concept that a lot of people don't seem to grasp.

Distraction is subjective.

Just because it distracts your missionary friend, or because you were companions with a missionary who had a girl and he happened to not be taking his mission seriously, doesn't mean that other missionaries are going to get distracted or be lazy.

Don't generalize. We are not all the same.

You know what distracts me? Watching Spongebob, or dresses, or fabric. Does that distract you? Probably not.

So does that mean that you have to go preach to the world that someone's actions distract all missionaries?

A while back, a girl posted on her Facebook how excited she was because she had so many more months left of her wait and this guy straight up went on about how she needed to stop counting down, she was distracting him.

She didn't take it and I butted in. Nothing makes me more angry then people who think that because we count down we are sending our missionaries letters that say "OMG 324 days left, I can't wait until you are home!" No. And even if I did, maybe that motivates my missionary, maybe it doesn't distract him. Distraction is subjective, so you can't tell me what distracts someone else will distract my missionary too.


If you are being told by someone who doesn't know you or your missionary or your relationship with your missionary that you are distracting him and you become confused, the best thing to do is to ask him straight up if you are being a distraction.

I asked Elder Ireland if I was being a distraction and if I should stop saying "I love you." He told me that when I tell him that I love you, I motivate him to work harder and to be more obedient because he knows he has a girl waiting for him and that our future family will be blessed by his obedience and dedication.

I also know of some girls who's missionary would rather than stay away from using that phrase during the two years they are out serving the Lord.

Whatever it may be, distraction is subjective. It always will be, it always has been.

If you are unsure what your missionary friend feels comfortable with, ask him and he will let you know what you can do to help him magnify his calling. After all, our role as missionary friends/girlfriends is to support our boys and to help them become the men Heavenly Father wants them to be. We can do this by helping them be obedient and by emotionally supporting them during this very exciting and trying time.


1 comment:

  1. I can't stand people like that. when others are happy and looking forward to something. You got one person who is so jealous and feeds off making you feel bad. he would've been deleted and blocked on my page for sure.

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